|Articles - Sexuality|
|Written by AnJ|
|Friday, 28 April 2006 00:00|
Labels- why do you hate them?
Some people hate labels because they don’t fit into any category:
Some people hate labels because they don’t identify with the stereotype of that category:
Ask lesbians what they think the labels mean and you would find variegated answers:
Characteristics entailed in the stereotype of these labels:
How confusing- there is no concensus in the lesbian community what each label really means… And this frustrates a lot of people.
Maybe this is what would be better… More consensus on what these labels really mean- what is the defining characteristic of a certain label? As in: what makes a femme a femme and not an andro or a butch?
Ah. But labels can never say enough about a person…
Nonetheless, labels are still around… it goes to show that they have not outlived their usefulness (yet).
Okie, let’s put things in perspective.
Beyond appearances, as a diverse group of individuals, we would have the following:
So… It doesn’t matter that a self-identified femme prefers pants or is extremely aggressive in bed or digs her nose in public etc. Such nitty gritties would be ironed out at the second round of elimination. Labels thus serve as the first round of selection for attention. Without labels, you might end up spending a lot of time on just selection alone- by the time you get a mate, you are probably 85 years of age.
Someone who hated labels told me: ”I cannot be with butches!” AHAH! There~ you just made use of labels!
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