|Negotiating my “bisexuality”|
|Articles - Sexuality|
|Written by AnJ|
|Wednesday, 05 September 2007 03:27|
A friend said to me…
“Anj, you are bisexual.”
He thinks i can swing both ways because of my past.
It’s here, in an article written quite a while back. “Preferred sexual activity” and “Preferred characteristics of sexual partners” said it all for me. I prefer women. It’s clear as day. My obsession for androgynous faces aside (which can include both genders), the most defining aspect of my sexuality is the distinct preference for female body parts. In fact, going by this definition, i can say with absolute confidence that i find the male physique unattractive. The bods in magazines, TV, everyday men… i have seen them all. The male body allures me at zilch point.
Dangle your average naked woman and average naked man before me, you will see my feet tapping steadily towards the babe.
“If you are lesbian, how can you be with guys?”
Because a relationship is not just about sex.
As i told many of my dear friends… i don’t see a difference between women and men beyond the physical. In my interactions with gals and guys, they are similar to me. [A reason why i cannot fathom male and female "energies".] The level of comfort is equal. The amount they offer in a conversation depends not on gender, but on their internal substance. You can see the same spirit or level of intellect or amount of passion… in a person, regardless of gender. As long as we don’t get into bed, i am happy interacting with both genders.
“Since you can be straight, why don’t you be straight?”
I cannot be straight.
Thus the question is: Why should i act straight?
Anj is lesbian.